For many people, their parents' divorce marks a turning point in their lives, whether the divorce happened many years ago or is taking place right now. About half the marriages in the United States today end in divorce, so plenty of kids and teens have to go through this. But when it happens to you, you can feel very alone and unsure of what it all means. It may seem hard, but it is possible to cope with divorce — and have a good family life in spite of some changes divorce may bring.
Teens Health from Nemours
MY MOM AND DAD BROKE UP WHEN I WAS EIGHT, BUT I STILL CAN’T SEEM TO GET OVER IT. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
When parents divorce there are no rules about how long it takes to come to peace with having a new family structure. People integrate their experience in stages and sometimes it seems very difficult to imagine being happy again. It’s unrealistic to “try to be happy and forget about it’” when you’re still hurting, but it is realistic to anticipate that one day you’ll feel better. It would be very useful for you to talk privately with a counselor to learn how to become more used to this situation now and as you get older.
MY PARENTS ARE GETTING DIVORCED. IS IT NORMAL TO FEEL RELIEVED AND NOT SAD ABOUT IT?
Sometimes when parents get divorced they do so after a lot of arguing or fighting, or sometimes your parents may have appeared to not be talking to each other at all. In some families there may have also been physical violence, alcohol problems, or other situations that created stress in the home. After the separation or the announcement of divorce, it’s perfectly normal to feel relieved rather than sad. This is nothing to feel guilty about! Your parents may also feel relieved even though they may also feel badly about not staying together. (Young Women’s Health)