MY MOM AND DAD BROKE UP WHEN I WAS EIGHT, BUT I STILL CAN’T SEEM TO GET OVER IT. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

When parents divorce there are no rules about how long it takes to come to peace with having a new family structure. People integrate their experience in stages and sometimes it seems very difficult to imagine being happy again. It’s unrealistic to “try to be happy and forget about it’” when you’re still hurting, but it is realistic to anticipate that one day you’ll feel better. It would be very useful for you to talk privately with a counselor to learn how to become more used to this situation now and as you get older.

MY PARENTS ARE GETTING DIVORCED. IS IT NORMAL TO FEEL RELIEVED AND NOT SAD ABOUT IT?

Sometimes when parents get divorced they do so after a lot of arguing or fighting, or sometimes your parents may have appeared to not be talking to each other at all. In some families there may have also been physical violence, alcohol problems, or other situations that created stress in the home. After the separation or the announcement of divorce, it’s perfectly normal to feel relieved rather than sad. This is nothing to feel guilty about! Your parents may also feel relieved even though they may also feel badly about not staying together. (Young Women’s Health)

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