In light of the many instances of sexual assault on college campuses coming to light, it's more important than ever that we teach both our boys and girls about the necessity of sexual consent. Parents should begin talking about sex with their kids in elementary school and middle school before big questions arise, and conversations about sex don't always have to be the big 'birds and the bees' talk. We can talk to our kids about sex and consent through consistent smaller conversations, which makes these conversations easier in the long run.
We might assume that our schools will cover these topics, but sex ed in schools focuses more on biology and the basics, not about safe sex emotionally. It's important to teach our kids boundaries: no means no, and only you can make decisions about your own body. This page is here to help you and your child have an honest, open relationship about sex and consent.
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Articles & Resources
Too often, when we talk with young people, we talk about the dangers of sexual behavior, and we leave out the positive feelings. Young people need to hear from us, the caring adults in their lives, about the pleasure as well as the responsibility of sexuality. (Advocates for Youth)
A list of parenting action items, created in the hope that we can raise a generation of children who have less rape and sexual assault in their lives. (Huffington Post)
Most young people are keen to find out all about sex – but generally not from their parents! However, the fact remains that discussing sex and consent needs to happen sooner rather than later, and be part of an ongoing discussion as they mature.You might assume school will cover these topics, but many schools focus primarily on the biology of sex and sexual health (e.g. using a condom to avoid STIs), and not as much on the social aspects of sex, such as dealing with pressure from others and understanding what respectful communication about consent looks like in practice. (theline.org)
Awkward question - how do you talk to your teenage son about sex and consent, especially given recent stories about sexual violence against women on college campuses? (NPR)
So much swirling in my head over the Stanford swimmer rape case. So many social and moral issues all wrapped into one tragic story.
I find myself, embarrassed, guilty because when I read about the case months ago and saw the headline, "Stanford, Olympic hopeful, rape" I thought to myself, how very sad...that poor boy's life is ruined, a stupid mistake. I didn't really give much thought or pay attention to the rest of the story. How very wrong. On Sunday when I read the victim's letter she read out loud in the courtroom, I wept. Wept for the young woman's life that has been derailed from her own hopes and dreams.